I have five brothers and sisters. And, I have twenty nieces and nephews. And, fourteen great nieces and nephews. We are a prolific bunch! Yesterday I traveled an hour away to see my niece and her newest child, just five days old. He was so tiny. This is her fourth child and so I decided to take them dinner instead of a baby gift. By the time you have four, two boys and two girls, you have it (baby clothes, furniture, tools) all. But, you don't have time.
This niece is my oldest brother's daughter. While growing up, he was my favorite. He is seventeen years older than me and he took me everywhere. He tried ( and failed) to get me into sports. He read to me, turning me into a voracious reader. We lived in a tiny town in Kentucky. There were no book stores for miles around. But, we had a library and we lived in the country so the bookmobile came around every two weeks. My brother worked on the railroad so when he went to a town where there was a bookstore, he always brought me back books.
He got married when I was in my early teens and when he and his wife had a baby, I loved hanging out at their house. It went well for a while but then my sister-in-law's drinking became a wedge between her and every single area of her life. It was ugly. We became distant. Everyone just wanted to steer clear of the insanity that is alcoholism. I grew up, got married and moved away. Then my own cloud of addiction entered the picture. They say that if you don't deal with things in your life, God will continue to give you opportunities to learn from them and so I guess he did.
Yesterday was the first time that I've really talked to my niece. Oh we've chatted, but yesterday we talked about what was/is real. And it was such a blessing. This little girl that I knew is now a grown woman carrying scars from addiction but surviving it. She is a loving mother, good wife and so diligent in providing for her children, what she did not have. I am so impressed. But, I want her to learn to take care of herself and to model that for her children.
I want to get to know her again. I want to get to know the others. Addiction is the big elephant in the family room of my big extended family. If we all gathered at the same time, we could form our own Al Anon group and probably an AA group as well. I just think it's time we started to talk to each other.
In other news, it is the second day of lent and the time changes this weekend. I can't believe it's spring forward time again. It's been so cold that it doesn't seem like it can be that time, already. Weight Watchers was cancelled due to weather which bummed me out because tracking both food and weight really help me.
Big Sister got an invitation to interview for a position in a PhD program in Louisiana. We are going down next weekend for a tour and a day of events followed by her interview. I think she was shocked by the invitation. She only expected to be accepted into masters programs.
The Son is working for his Dad until he gets a new job. I have a lot of concerns about that. I really want to be careful that we aren't enabling. We did need an employee and he had just quit a job but it can be a slippery slope. Praying you guys.